I thought I would try out all of the foundations, BB & CC creams, tinted moisturisers and primers currently sitting on my desk!
Okay so this first photo is my face without any makeup whatsoever, for comparison. As you can see, there are some gross spots - particularly around my chin. Sigh.
I’m always tying my happiness to things that are far out of my reach.
The main one is my weight - in my mind, everything comes back to that. I’d be happier if I didn’t look the way I did. I’d have more friends if I didn’t look the way I did. Maybe I’d even get a boyfriend! If only I didn’t look the way I did (the latter is probably true though).
I mean, that makes a bit of sense, since I’ve had people telling me from the age of 5 that I’d just feel better about life if I lost a bit of weight. But I don’t want everything to be tied to this seemingly impossible thing.
Another one is that I’d feel happier if I didn’t live here anymore. I went on exchange for 3 months and felt worse. But moving overseas permanently isn’t realistic right now, and I know that, but one part of my brain just doesn’t get it.
I don’t know how to let go of the belief that I’d finally feel happy if I just… wasn’t me.
(i am an asian male living in singapore)
people on here pretend that culture is something that ABOSLUTELY NEEDS TO BE PROTECTED AND KEPT BY THEIR RACIAL PROGENITORS BY ALL COSTS
but culture has always fucking been about sharing, even when people were screwed over
if you live in a western country, have never been outside it, and have never empirically experienced how other cultures share themselves with people then please stop talking about ‘appropriation’
cultures share each other. they don’t share everything about themselves, but things are shared. especially in asia, fuck dude, we are all about sharing.
the question most people ask my country when you meet with them is ‘have you eaten’. because we love food. we love sharing food. when westerners come we want to show them all we have because there is something magical about sharing who you and your people are with someone
historically that has been taken advantage of but we’re at a point where if someone tries to exploit you it can be called out and taken down
no one gives a shit if you do yoga, subscribe to buddhism,
hell one of my monks lives here and he’s white from chicago? and he lives in the temple with everyone else and they all respect and love each other
what? you’ve never been to a buddhist temple? you’ve never even talked to a fucking monk? you haven’t eaten with them and laughed and understood that it’s about love, sharing, and togetherness rather than going ‘fuck off whitey’?
then shut the fuck up
“but culture has always fucking been about sharing, even when people were screwed over” By screwed over do you mean when Native people experienced genocide at the hands of imperialists in numerous countries? ‘Screwed over’ suggests that what happened was minor, when that is far from true.
Those Native people still live in the Western countries you’re referring to. They still suffer, and they are still mocked and belittled at the hands of society. Western countries contain hundreds of cultures, so a person living in one can most definitely experience how different cultures interact. I live in one, and have also travelled extensively, so I’ve seen these cultures in Australia, blending together (sometimes), as well as in their places of origin. I still acknowledge that cultural appropriation exists and negatively impacts upon those cultures that continue to exist and survive despite countless efforts to wipe them out.
There is a huge difference between collaborating and sharing and stealing, mocking, appropriating and minimising. It’s very odd to me that you cannot see the difference. Sharing cultures is consented to by both parties. Appropriating them isn’t.